From rejection to glory

Psalm 147:3In grade school, I happily socialized with all of my classmates. We shared our boxed lunches, confidently sang during music class and laughed during recess. I could not wait to go to school the next day. We were one big happy family.

But something changed the day I started sixth grade. I had gone through a growth spurt during the summer months, and when I walked into class the first day, I was taller than everyone, including the boys. I was self-conscious and tried to sit as much as possible.

That was not the only change I noticed that year. The class used to play together at recess. Now everyone was playing in groups. The girls and boys I had played with since kindergarten had formed cliques.

The same girls I had called my best friends no longer wanted to play hopscotch or climb the monkey bars with me. They had chosen other friends, and I was no longer one of them.

I turned to other cliques and was turned away for various reasons. I wasn’t athletic enough, did not wear designer clothes, wore glasses, not thin enough – the list went on and on.

I did eventually find a core group of girls who became my close friends and still are to this day.  But as I continued to walk the same halls and sit in the same classrooms as my former playmates, my heart ached from rejection.

Leah also fully understood the pain and humiliation of rejection. Every day she lived with a man who was clearly in love with another woman. She must have felt the anguish of rejection every time Jacob showed affection towards Rachel and not her.

For years she yearned for Jacob’s love. She thought that he would finally love her if she bore him a son but this did not happen. She prayed at the birth of her second and third sons for Jacob’s love. But this, too, never transpired.

Psalm 147:3 (NIV)

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.

Finally, Leah changed her focus. Instead of praying for Jacob’s love, she gave her praises to God. After years of feeling the pain of rejection, she gave it all to God who removed her pain and replaced it with His love. She knew she was worthy to be a daughter of God and that gave her the strength to go on.

Rejection is a painful experience and something we have all had to face at some point in our lives. If we let it, rejection can affect the way we see ourselves and lower our self-worth. But if we give it to God he will cleanse our wounds and make them whole again.

Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

 When Leah gave her pain to God, He was able to turn that pain into something good. Leah went on to become mother to half of the twelve tribes of Israel.

God can use our pain of rejection and turn it into something good. Open your heart today to our Savior.

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23 thoughts on “From rejection to glory

  1. Oh my! I so identify with this post, Jenny. My old feelings welled up. But reminding me of Leah brought those thoughts into focus and made me realize just how far along God’s path I have come from the days of rejection, as a child, as an adult. Praising Him for His beautiful love.
    Caring through Christ, ~ linda

  2. I saw my friend’s face at Holly’s place – Testimony Tuesday – and wanted to stop in and visit. I’m so glad I did. I recognize that school scene. Mine changed in high school. I too found a few core friends but it seems so odd how the rejection can follow us.

    Beautifully written Jenny. Blessings friend!

  3. Jenny, I love that in the hands of God even the sting of rejection can be redeemed and turned into something good. What inspiration there is in Leah’s actions. I pray we release it all into His capable hands. Thank you, Jenny, for sharing your heart at #IntentionalTuesday on Intentionally Pursuing. : )

  4. Jenny, I am going to send this to my senior grand daughter who has had rejection struggles a lot. She is so brave because she too has had to reach out to different groups till she found a few who like her understood not being in the popular groups. She went out for speech which was also brave of her and has done really well. She will appreciate this post just as I did. Blessings.

  5. Thank you so much for this post. I have been dealing with this issue, yet again, recently. Sometimes I KNOW what’s true, but can’t always focus upon it clearly. it’s annoying but the truth is rejection hurts. I’m thankful that we are always acceptable in God’s eyes.

    I don’t know how link-ups work, but I’d love for you to put a link to this post on my blog. http://www.itcrossedmymind.blogspot.com

    Blessings~

  6. Jenny, what good thoughts on facing any kind of pain. Feeling left our can come from not feeling well, or having to work when your friends have time or money to vacation together. The world wants us to feel sorry for ourselves. When I attended my first writing conference, my husband came with me so we could visit the place we’d gotten engaged. But I tore my meniscus before the conference. I had to sit in the hotel instead of being able to do what we had planned. I started feeling “woe is me” when I felt a stirring from the Lord. What if He’d arranged this so I could have a special date with Him. With that new mindset I had the most wonderful morning. And that afternoon my knee had calmed down from traipsing through airport so I could go out with my husband. Focusing on Christ makes all the difference.

  7. I’ve often felt so sorry for Leah. I can’t imagine how that rejection must have felt. Such a crazy scenario, however you look at it. But yes, God redeemed it for his purposes, just like he redeems the rejection we perceive as “bad” in our own lives. Thanks for your honesty here, Jenny. It encourages us.

  8. Hi Jenny,
    I’m your neighbor at Bonnie’s link-up! 🙂 Dealing with rejection isn’t easy but your words have so much truth in them that when others reject us, we can only turn to God who we can give ourselves and our lives to, knowing that he will never turn away from us! Nice to meet you! 🙂

  9. I count on Him for the healing and the protection and moving forward. He has healed my heart several times, and a couple of my leg-times. AND, considering the part of the nation I lived in as a kid, and much fighting was going on, He protected me from being knocked down. That would have been in the 1950’s and 1960’s. I’m a blessed lady. Thank you for sharing the reality of the Word. Bless you.

  10. I suppose it’s all part of growing up, growing apart, and growing differently–even as adults, our friendships don’t always last, but when we’re kids, we have no idea how to do those things tactfully. I can remember in 9th grade, when my best friend got into the “popular” clique, and I wasn’t…I turned around in math class to ask her a question and she acted like I wasn’t there. She simply didn’t acknowledge me, which prompted me to ask more questions, which she ignored. It really hurt. I knew then that our friendship was over, and was hurt because I thought, “Why can’t she just tell me?”

    I think we all have those memories. I can’t imagine how Leah must have felt. So good to know NOW that God sees our broken hearts, and cares so much for us that He binds up those wounds and makes some good out of it. I enjoyed this post today, and had actually forgotten that incident. Thanks for sharing, Jenny.

  11. You paint a powerful picture here of the struggles Leah must have faced with rejection. Wow, puts my experiences into a whole new perspective! Thanks for sharing. I am giving away a copy of Danise Jurado’s book, Fulfilled, this week at incrementalhealing.wordpress.com – I’d love to have you stop by and enter for a chance to win!
    Blessings and hugs,
    Kamea

  12. What a beautiful picture you’ve painted here of God turning our rejection into good. I have thought of past rejection in light of how God worked it into good things in me–things like making me a person who looks out for anyone on the outside b/c I know what that feels like. But I love how you showed us from Leah’s story, what the Lord did there. Thank you for this! #RaRaLinkup

  13. I can relate to Leah in so many ways. It always pains me when I read in Genesis that she had “plain eyes”. I loved how you said “God can use our pain of rejection and turn it into something good”. Leah gave birth to Judah, the very tribe Christ came out of. What a wonderful picture of redemption. Blessed to be your neighbor from #IntentionalTuesday.

  14. Jenny,
    I love this theme of rejection weaved into the story of Leah! Beautiful! I wrote about rejection this week and we both came to the same conclusion, God has a better plan for us. He will make good out of what felt awful. I’m so glad I was a neighbor on #WordsofComfort! I was blessed by your words 🙂
    Blessings and smiles,
    Lori

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