Together we can remove our insecurities

Proverbs 17:17When I joined an online group of mostly women writers, I was hesitant to participate. My insecurities begged me to remain anonymous.

I was a wannabe writer at the bottom of a list of wonderful women who could write profound and life-changing words. I was convinced my mediocre writing would fall into a forgotten abyss.

Many of the writers who joined the group after me have described the same feelings – doubt in their abilities and fear of not measuring up to everyone else.

These insecurities are not limited to my writer friends. I see it in women everywhere. We question our own abilities and compare ourselves to others. We constantly worry about our weight, age, hair color and even our height. We doubt and fear that we do not belong.

God created each of us different on purpose. Some of us can create a beautiful masterpiece out of paper, scissors and glue while some of us can sing like an angel. It does not make one greater than the other, but we convince ourselves that it does.

When I was in grade school, those differences did not matter. But that changed in junior high when we begin to notice the differences in each other.

Maybe it was the hormones of adolescence or the influence of society, but suddenly I began comparing myself to others. I wanted to be witty, thin, pretty and a great athlete like the other girls.

When I failed in these areas, my insecurities skyrocketed causing me to believe they were better than I. And that category that I had put myself in, has stuck with me to this day.

Do insecurities whisper into your ear with lies that you don’t measure up to others?

Look closely around you. Do you see other woman navigating the same sea of life with you? Reach out to them. It’s ok because we all struggle with the insecurity, doubt and fear.

We are not in competition with each other. We are allies and when we ban together, we can lift each other up. Together we can wipe out our insecurities and no longer doubt ourselves.

Proverbs 27:17 (NLT)

As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.

We need each other so stand with me my friends. Let’s hold hands and fight the real enemy of this world.

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18 thoughts on “Together we can remove our insecurities

  1. I think women are competitive *because* of their insecurities. But like you, I have found that if I’m willing to step out and be real, vulnerable, and authentic, others follow. We have so much to learn from each other ~ so much to glean.
    As one from an “older” generation, I believe we have much to offer too, but we have to lay down the doubts and fears you talk about in order to be effective.
    Great post Jenny. I’m your “downstairs neighbor” from #CoffeeForYourHeart and I’m glad I stopped in. 🙂

  2. Such truth! Why do we do this to ourselves? It’s hard to put those insecurities down and press forward, but God’s equipped us for the road He wants us to walk, so we have to trust and step forward. I’ve jousted this particular dragon more times that I care to count – and I’m sure I haven’t yet slayed him.

  3. Oh yes, I could relate to what you’re writing right from the start. When I started my blog I didn’t want anyone to know that I had started it or read what I had written. I would rather write for a sea of anonymous readers than for my friends and family. I’m almost over that now. 🙂 I really liked your last paragraphs about not letting our insecurities keep us from reaching out to those around us.

  4. Yes, this is a sad truth among women . . .I was reading an article about in the NYT just this morning, except that author had no hope to offer. Thanks be to God, we have an immutable reference point for our value, and we part of a body of believers. Thanks, Jenny, for these honest and insightful words.

  5. Yes Ma’am! You are right on! I have told myself the very same lies. And, as it seems we all believe it, this looks to be a very effective tool in the devils toolbox. Thank you for shining light on a lie we all seem to be falling into. Looking for courage to step into the light, just as you have!

  6. Amen. You are right on. People might tell me that I look all put together on the outside. Well, I feel like have to because I’m all pulled apart on the inside. Insecurities. We all seem to have them,even if we hide them. Great post.
    Blessings, Christy

  7. I think we all, if we are truly honest, feel like we may fit into this category in some way, shape, or form. As women we seem to find fault in ourselves so easily as we compare ourselves to others too readily. And then there are those who take words and not only encourage but build, like you are doing here, Jenny, and that makes it easier to connect and less needful to compare. 🙂

    Blessings as you write and bless others!
    Dawn

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