Embracing the Ma’am in Me

Proverbs 16:31

I walked towards the tall building on a beautiful fall afternoon. The cool air had provided relief from the summer heat and everyone was taking advantage of being outside.

I breathed in the crisp air that had put me in a good mood and walked with my head high. I felt good. Life was good this day.

Then it happened. One minute I was walking and the next minute I was lying face down on the ground. After the initial shock of falling, I stayed where I was. I was unable to face the hundreds of people who had just witnessed the most ungraceful fall in mankind. I wondered how long it would take me to melt into the sidewalk and disappear.

I heard a muffled voice in the distance. I could not figure out what it said so I ignored. It happened again but this time, it was louder and I realized it was for me. I looked up to find a young man in his twenties running towards me.

“Ma’am, are you ok?” he asked.

As he helped me up, I did not answer. I only stared at him. He must have thought I was dazed and hurt, but I wasn’t. I was perfectly fine. I knew the embarrassment of falling would fade. I also knew that in a couple of days my friends and I would laugh as I recounted this story. But, as I stared at him, I realized something did happen. Something I may never recover from.

He called me “ma’am.”

When did I become a ma’am? I have always associated that word with someone who is older than me. I realized that, to this twenty-something, I am old, therefore making me a ma’am.

Feeling down about my new found status, I turned to my Bible and guess what I found? Ladies, aging is not a bad thing. In fact, it’s a great thing. As we grow older, we gain a great status in the eyes of the Lord. Here are a few:

Job 12:12
Is not wisdom found among the aged? Does not long life bring understanding?

Proverbs 16:31
Gray hair is a crown of splendor; it is attained in the way of righteousness.

Isaiah 46:4
Even to your old age and gray hairs I am he, I am he who will sustain you. I have made you and I will carry you; I will sustain you and I will rescue you.

We are distinguished woman with wisdom and understanding. Sure we don’t have all the answers, but God is with us every step of our journey here on Earth. He will use our wisdom to guide us where we need to go.

The younger generation may see us as old but in God’s eyes, we are his precious and valuable daughters. Friends, let’s go out there and embrace our “ma’am” status.


37 thoughts on “Embracing the Ma’am in Me

  1. Great post Jen! I am well into the “ma’am” stage and decided a few years ago to stop coloring my hair and let the grey shine through. For one thing, it was a pain…I think I am the only woman on earth who hates going to the salon…Second, I like the grey. Thanks for the reminders that being a “ma’am” is a blessing!!

    Hugs & Blessings,

  2. Good for you Monica. My husband just informed me this morning that need to embrace my gray hair better than I do. Thanks for stopping by.

  3. I remember when I was first called señora (I live in a Spanish speaking country and it’s basicly the same as being called ma’am). It was such a huge shock. And I didn’t even consider myself old or anything, just passed thirty and I was a señora. Yes, it was a shock, lol
    But after that I have been meditating it, praying it, considering it and reading about it. And I know the culture is crazy about young and pretty and thin. But Bible isn’t, and God isn’t either.
    He loves young, and pretty and thin people too. But like you found in the Bible, God sees special worth in aged people.
    After that I have started a contious journey in accepting the age and whatever comes with it. I try to remember myself that even though I was faster, thinner, more agile, stronger and even prettier when I was younger, I was also more unstable, more unsure, more easily swayed from the right path and persuaded to go with the crow.
    I might not be what the main culture think is the best thing. But I think it’s just because women become smarter when they age, we gain confidence and wisdom. The life does bring understanding.

  4. YES, MA’AM! So thankful for this call to acceptance of who we are. Actually, those who deny their age are only fooling themselves, and are, at the same time, scorning the rich gift of years. Thank you for this upbeat and right-minded post!

  5. I absolutely love this! I’m from the south, so basically everyone is a “ma’am” or a “sir.” I even call my 5 yr old daughter “ma’am” sometimes! (Ha! Especially to get a point across!) I would not consider myself “old” by any means (but honestly, who does?? Even though I DO have graying hair.), as I am in my early 30’s… but this is an interesting dynamic. I don’t automatically assume the name “ma’am” with someone who is more aged than me. I simply consider it a term of respect. Hmmmm…. something to think about.

    Thank you for this perspective! 🙂 It’s nice to “meet you” you too, as I’m visiting from Suzie’s link up!

  6. My grey started just over ten years ago and I’m really okay with it. I don’t color, no difficult do’s to tuck it away even. It’s my own sparkle and glitter! Glad you recovered from the fall, embracing you ma’am!

  7. I so enjoyed reading this today. I just had a birthday and found a single gray hair in the same week. I embraced it. Gray hair is a sign that I’m still here. It is something worth having! I don’t FEEL over 30, because my brain says I’m still 25. But… the signs of aging are there. (Mostly because I don’t know what those young people are into anymore. And I don’t know who most of the young actors are on the award shows anymore! haha) Thanks for sharing your story!

  8. Jenny, I so enjoyed reading this today. I love your humor! And that verse is a gem that I wasn’t aware of before today so thank you. I think that our belief that aging is a negative thing is a lie that our culture has shoved down our throats for so long that it’s hard to believe the opposite really is true. Thank you for speaking the truth today. So glad I found you at #LiveFreeThursday. -Abby

  9. You made me laugh this morning, Jenny! Not because you fell (I hope you weren’t hurt,) but because I can totally relate. All the younger women I work with address me as ma’am. I will look at that with a renewed perspective today:) Blessings!

    1. I only suffered a few scrapes. I wish I could say that I tripped over a rock or crack in the cement but it was just my clumsiness. Thanks.

  10. Yes, Ma’am! You said it. We don’t see ourselves as “Ma’am” until we’re forced to face it. I’d rather be “Ma’am” to someone younger than me than “sweetie,” or “hon.” BTW – those moments where everything seems so right – like the perfect moment in a Disney movie? I’ve learned to walked gingerly because they always seemed to be followed by experiences you describe! I so enjoyed your post!!! It gave me smiles!

  11. Hi Jen, happy to have met you through FMF today. Thanks so much for your words. I turn 41 on Monday, so I know, though I’m still a spring chicken to some, I am definitely starting to experience tastes of the aging process. I’m purposing to embrace the wisdom that can come with age as well as my growing confidence in Christ. Those are definitely some of the gifts in ma’am. 🙂 Glad you were not badly injured! Bless you today.

  12. I’ve done that less than graceful fall! How well I know that feeling of surprise to find yourself no longer upright, lol. Thankfully, God doesn’t keep track of the falls, He only cares that we get back up. Embracing the ma’am might just be one of those ways.
    Such a delightful but thoughtful post, Jen, glad I decided to stop in from the #RaRaLinkup today.

  13. I love the words of Proverbs 16:31, but I think I’m going to still keep covering up those grays. ; ) But even as I try to hide those stubborn grays, I will remind myself of their beauty in God’s eyes and embrace my “ma’am” status. : )

    Thank you, Jenny, for blessing us with your words at #IntentionalTuesday

  14. Joining you today via #IntentionalTuesday and #RaRaLinkUp, and I’m glad I did, Jenny. The ma’am syndrome is something to face, a force to be reckoned with, isn’t it? I had the hardest time teaching our kids to use that term. Where I grew up it was for grandmas. My husband, being from Oklahoma and the military, preferred its use for all adult women, grandma or not. So we used it and the kids did too. I’m glad now. It brings respect and honor. And, after reading through the Scriptures above, it’s a reminder of His sustaining hand. Yes, I think I’ll honor Him today because of that very sustaining hand. Praise God. (Love the look of your blog, btw.)

  15. Great post! I’m really fighting the grey hairs poking about my head lately! These verses were very encouraging. Glad I stopped by. I’m visiting from the ‘Unite’ link-up. : )

  16. I can so relate. Some guy called me ma’am this past weekend! I will try to embrace it. Give me a minute. 😉
    You know, I’m glad I came back to read. I couldn’t get it to load earlier.
    Must be something I needed to read today!
    Thanks for posting.

    visiting from Titus @ Tuesday linkup

  17. I remember the first time I heard someone call me “ma’am”. I am sure I turned and looked to see who they were talking to because surely it wasn’t me! Ha! We are a blessing to others because of our life experience. Thank you for blessing us at The Weekend Brew by sharing this post.

  18. Amen 🙂 I actually got excited when my 40th finally came! God has blessed me with such great experiences (both good and bad), I wear my wisdom streaks (gray hair) with pride and feel blessed to be a ma’am 🙂 Thank you for sharing your heart and the wonderful scripture to remind us of God’s Word on the topic!

  19. I thoroughly enjoyed this post. I am 48, and have been coloring my hear for about 15 years. I am not quite ready to let it all go just yet. Perhaps once someone calls me ma’am! I am so thankful you linked up at The Weekend Brew so I could find you. Blessings!

  20. Thanks Jenny for this great post and I am in the Ma’am stage with you (although Ma’am is a term we use in Australia). I think it is great to embrace each stage of our life and be thankful for it. Sometimes this is hard when we are somewhere we don’t want to be but I suppose God knows where we need to be. Thank you for sharing this with us at Good Morning Mondays. Blessings

  21. Oh man. I’m 36 and people call me m’am, too. I so agree with what you are saying, though I don’t think I’m very appreciative of those few gray hairs that are creeping out. But I do want wisdom and I think it does come as we grow older and closer to Jesus. So glad you linked up with SDG!

  22. Those undignified falls are embarrassing, and I remember a couple tumbles I took in public.
    My blond hairs do have some grey but the blond tends to hide it somewhat. As we age, we must continue to be childlike in our faith and our hearts young. Thanks for sharing with us here at Tell me a Story.

  23. Amen. You are so beautiful in him. He loves wisdom and experience. Of course, our culture is counter to everything he holds valuable. Cheering you on from the #RaRalinkup on Purposeful Faith; these words are valuable to so many and speak so much truth!

  24. Love this post – need to embrace the gray hairs and my ‘ma’am’ status. Not that I’m going to show off those grays yet or anything that crazy 🙂 But, good point that we should celebrate the wisdom and maturity that age brings and use it to bring along those behind us.

  25. oh, I so needed to hear this today. Lately I have had feelings that I just can’t describe…I don’t like getting old. I look at my body getting lower and heavier and remember that I was once so skinny, my best friend thought I was anorexic. No chance of that happening now. BUT…I was skinny because I battled anxiety (without faith in Christ) to the point of not being able to get food down my throat without gagging. I no longer battle that. I am a confident woman who finds her worth in God. So why do I still think I need to find my worth in my body image? Wrinkles, hair that won’t behave, the extra weight…I don’t like what I see in the mirror…I long for the woman I was at…40ish…that was good…my friend says she loves being in her 50s. She’s having more fun now than ever. And aren’t I? I think I may need to turn this into a blog…thanks for the post to ponder…embracing my Ma’am…I like it.

  26. I actually had someone call me sir not too long ago…should I embrace that one? I was volunteering as a parking attendant and it was winter; I was bundled up and it was dark, and I didn’t speak; just moved out of their way. I actually got a kick out of it…once is okay.

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