When we compare ourselves to others

Galatians 6:4Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else  – [biblegateway passage=”Galatians 6:4″ display=”Galatians 6:4″] (NIV)

A few weeks ago, I attended a women’s retreat. It was a much needed break away from the demands of life where I spent time relaxing, writing and taking pictures of my beautiful surroundings.

I also formed new relationships with other Christian women. The faith of these women is amazing, and I loved spending time with them. Their actions and words taught me new ways at responding to the glory of God.

When I returned home and hit the un-pause button of life, I expected to be filled with excitement from the weekend. But that’s not what happened.

Instead, I found myself feeling inadequate compared to my new friends. Their worship is huge and their emotions run deep. God is using them in a big way. But why was I there? What do I have to offer compared to these beautiful women?

Leah’s eyes were weak, but Rachel was beautiful in form and appearance. – [biblegateway passage=”Genesis 29:17″ display=”Genesis 29:17″] (NIV)

Leah and Rachel spent years in the comparison trap. Leah felt inadequate in her appearance, and Rachel felt unworthy because she could not have children. Both had what the other wanted. They spent a lot of wasted time and energy focused on what they did not possess.

I wonder if Leah and Rachel ever realized the unique gifts God had given to each of them. Gifts they could use to glorify God.

My friend, Kristine Brown, just finished writing a book called Over It: Conquering Comparison to Live out God’s Plan. In it she says, “Remain confident in who God says you are, what He says to do, and what He has for you. Only then will you be able to release the need to measure up.”

It’s good advice which I took to heart, because it’s impossible to follow God when our eyes are focused on comparing ourselves to others and not on him.

Remember who you are in Christ and that you are unconditionally loved by him.

Over It: Conquering Comparison to Live Out God's PlanIt’s easy to compare ourselves to other women, but it can also be very damaging to our self-esteem. Over It: Conquering Comparison to Live out God’s Plan will introduce you to three women in scripture who fell into the comparison trap, but ultimately found freedom. Take this journey and learn how to free yourself from comparing yourself to others and live the life God has planned for you.

Purchase a copy of Over It: Conquering Comparison to Live out God’s Plan today.


This week, I’m linking up with these great ladies:
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7 thoughts on “When we compare ourselves to others

  1. Love this, Jenny! It can be so tempting to look at what everybody is doing or has and be met with our own glaring shortcomings… But for God. He has gifted us each individually and I love how you bring that out here! Blessings, friend!

  2. Such a beautiful post Jenny. Thank you so much for mentioning the Over It book here, as well. I’m thankful God gives us direction through Scripture when we feel compelled to compare – and we all do! You are a blessing to me:)

  3. I think we could all benefit from this book, Jenny! It’s so easy to look at what others have and desire the same outcome. The problem is that we probably wouldn’t want to go through what they’ve had to endure to get there! Just starting in the blogging world 7 months ago, I began to feel that “Why am I not there yet?’ feeling. The truth is, I probably couldn’t handle where I really wanted to be. If I could and it was God’s plan, He would have brought me there. It’s really been amazing to see Him show up and bring me along the path He has for me. That’s where my focus needs to be- His path for me, not for others. Thanks for sharing over at Word Filled Wednesdays!

  4. Great post! It is so easy to fall into the trap of comparing ourselves to others, but such a waste of time when we could be focussing on God’s call for us.

  5. Love seeing Kristine’s book here. It was such a treat to get an advance copy and I too was reminded of how easy we can fall into that trap. So glad we have a God who sees us, and places His unique call on our lives. No time for watching others, when our eyes are on Him! Glad to be your neighbor at #coffeeforyourheart today.

  6. Loved Kristine’s book. It’s a goodie! And Jenny, you have MUCH to offer. Throw that comparison out the window where it belongs and keep on worshiping “Jenny style”. I loved spending time with you. In hindsight, too bad we didn’t chat a bit more.

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